TRUST

By Abia Iris

'Picture a father tossing his daughter high up in the air. She would just laugh her heart out without any doubt that she would hit the ground all because of the assurance she has on her father. That’s what you call a TRUST.'

   What is TRUST anyway? Trust is to believe in, to have faith or to have assurance in something or someone. If you have a question like ‘does trust really matter’? Well, my answer would be a YES!

Trust is fundamental to life. Without trust, life becomes intolerable. You can’t have any connection or relationship without trust. By relationship I also include the bonds between friends and family too. From this we can see that trust plays a role in our daily life. But what if a trust is broken? Can it be restored? Yes, it can be restored. Here are few things you can try if you’re facing trust issues.

   Firstly, you have to acknowledge or make known your mistakes. The offender must own his or her mistakes without any ‘buts’. It is not okay to say “I’m sorry to hurt you but…” In fact it is never okay to rationalize or defend your mistakes. The only way to gain back the trust you lost is to take full responsibility of your actions.
 

   Next, make sure you don’t take things for granted. An offender can or may be forgiven, but it is very crucial that he or she doesn’t repeat the same mistakes. It is no use saying “I’m sorry. It will never happen again” for a thousand times but end up repeating the mistakes. You have to act out the words you said. If you don’t then you just might never be a trustworthy person again.

   Last but not least is to wait. This one’s a real tough thing to do and we humans don’t really like it. Waiting is a process. You can’t plant a seed today and expect to see a big tree tomorrow. Trust doesn’t just happen in a day or two. It requires a lot of time. We must learn to embrace this process. Through waiting comes perseverance. Picture trust as a bridge that has been destroyed. The gap and challenges are great but there are no shortcuts in fixing the bridge. It simply requires time and patience.

   These steps may not be a 100% accurate. Different situation requires different level of advice. There are a certain case where trust is just the last thing you want to do because everything seems so hopeless. However, if the problem seems to be on the surface, you might have a chance to restore it.

   To those trust-breakers out there. Try to be nice. It is not nice to hurt someone who place their solemn trust on you. Placing their trust on you can mean that you hold a special place in their heart and are willing to place everything else behind for you. So don’t go around breaking trusts like a piece of glass.

   And to those victims. Trust is meant to be broken. That’s where you see the clear picture of who is necessary in your life and who is not. It is okay be have your trust broken. This is also known as a learning process. You learn to be a better person and you also learn to differentiate people. The most important person to trust in life is...GOD and also YOURSELF. Trust your heart, your mind and your instincts for they can bring you a long way. Sometimes trusting God is the only option you’ve got. So take heart and don’t worry too much. Here’s a trick. When you see that your trust is being taken for granted, just leave it and shut the door. Trust me, it hurts but it is way better to let go than letting other hurt you.