WORDS COUNT

By Abia Iris

Words are alive and have the power to manipulate one's self and also others. What we say can either pull someone down or life them up.

Sadly, these days the choice of words used often bring a negative impact. For instance, a mother yelling vulgar words at her child or a teacher using inappropriate words at her students. It is definitely not wrong to correct and discipline someone but is it 'necessary' to use harsh choice of words? Think about it for a moment. What would you do if you were in the very same situation? Is it acceptable to you? I doubt so

Many out there are unaware of the harmful impact of their words on someone else. In anger, we tend to lash out without thinking and then end up regretting later. If telling someone that they are ugly can hurt them so badly, imagine other forms of words that can leave a scar. Situations like this have a possibility in contributing to suicide cases and cause abnormal behavior in a person. What I meant abnormal behavior is that the victim has the tendency to treat those around him in the same manner. Ok now, let's look at the positive side. Saying words of encouragement can boost up a person's self confidence. Like a teacher using positive words to encourage a student and as a result he or she will put more effort in improving himself or herself. Same goes to parents. Try correcting or talking to your child without using harsh words. Trust me, in a long run they will see you as their best friend and your relationship will get stronger. So you can see now how can a thing as simple as the words you use bring and impact. 

Here are some tips to help you start using words wisely. You can start by identifying to which group of people you are communicating with (e.g.: kids, teenagers, middle age and old people). Once you identify it gives you a hint of what words to choose before your speak. Next, whenever you are mad at someone, take a deep breath and try to talk in a nice tone. It will help reduce the tension of that very situation and it helps you use rational words. You also need to keep your mind open. Don't jump to conclusion. Give some space to the other party to tell their side of the story. Next, respect each other's feelings. If you don't like when someone throws words at you then others might not like it as well. Last but not least, discuss rather than argue. Argument will only intensify the situation and make you use words you don't even want to use but discussion will not only give you time to choose your words but it will help you resolve them quickly

I hope this bit of sharing will help you to rethink your actions and all those words you have unintentionally or intentionally use. And also, it is never too late to mend our ways of doing thing. So, give it a try and be satisfied with the outstanding results.