A common phrase would be ‘forgive and forget’ but
not like anything I’m going to share today. At some point in life we go through
denial. We even have been treated badly by others. We face incidents that scar
us for a life time.
I’m not saying forgiving is easy but it is possible.
Forgetting however is next to impossible because it becomes a constant reminder
for you. For instance, during high school we were bullied by some notorious
gangsters in your school. Over time you just let go that hatred and eventually
you forgive but that painful memory does remain in your mind. Most of us as
kids were taught by our parents to forgive and let go. But does that really
work? Does that leave you without any impact?
I strongly urge that you shouldn’t forget whatever
incident you go through. I say this is because they become a lesson for you.
They prevent you from being a victim again. The next time you face any similar
situation, you would know how to handle it.
At one point in life, I realized I was surrounded by
fake people. I was living up to their standards and not mine. I tried to please
them. I thought it was all part of pleasing them. Those I call as friends weren’t
really being a friend, especially during desperate and helpless time. At times
I thought it was ok. I didn’t look at it seriously. I repeated forgive and
forget whatever they did and without my realization, I was only storing up
hurt.
But then, one
day, I realize that being treated that way is never ok. Being turned down and
betrayed was definitely not ok. The pain and agony I went through after knowing
the truth, was really unbearable. All this while, I was the one allowing the
hurt to overwhelm me and I was ok with them hurting me over and over again. Honestly
I didn’t have the heart to forgive. I began hating them for it. Every time I
see them near me I just get angry. I was so angry that I feel like hitting them
or yelling at them. But then, I came to my sense that forgiving is not just for
them but it is for myself as well. Forgiving allows you to heal. It gives you
inner peace because you let go off that hatred and pain. But forgetting that
incident is never going to happen because it became a lesson for me. I learnt
that not everyone is genuine. Some just put a mask around you and play nice
when actually they aren’t.
If you happen to face similar situation or anything
worse, it is ok for you to not forget because it actually helps you save
yourself from trouble. But if you are someone who forgive as well as forget, I am
not against that. It is also a good thing. It might seem like a bad thing but
think about it for a moment. You forgive but you absorb the lesson you got by
not forgetting it and that lesson will help you in any sort of situation you
face. In a bad situation we can’t see the good but that doesn’t mean there’s
any.
This is my point of you. How about you? Do you agree
with or you think forgetting is the best choice? Do share in the comment below.
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